Anon: The follow up to “To Blow or Not To Blow” must be “How to blow”. Tootsie roll pop (suck off the Owl to get to the center) or the franticism of ‘daddy give me a new amex card now’.

This is a fairly interesting analysis of the so-called “oral sex craze,” the latest in a series of article I’ve found on the growing generation gap. She makes some good points at the beginning, but towards the end she just runs out of steam and blames it on black music and pornography. She also asserts that a girl is more likely to be wounded by early sexual experiences than boys, but never really explains why. She says it is because she is old-fashioned. In the end, it just seems like sexism. Girls can say no to giving oral sex, or demand reciprocation. Why is it that boys are always portrayed as evil sexual aggressors, while girls are delicate flowers that need to be protected? A woman’s modesty is more valued in society, while a man’s doesn’t seem to be at all.

I don’t know how many have seen 40 Days and 40 Nights, but I think for me the end of this movie really underlined how little a man’s modesty is valued. The basic premise is that, as a bet, a guy promise to abstain from all sexual activity for lent. Warning, if you like crappy comedies, and are trying to save the ending for the right time, stop reading now. Basically what happens is that his ex girlfriend comes over and rapes him, straight up. Can you imagine the outcry if it were a woman being raped? It certainly wouldn’t be presented as a joke, and yet a man being raped is a Josh Hartnett romantic comedy.

In the end, maybe what I am trying to say is that to me feminism isn’t about girl power, it’s about people power. A mother shouldn’t value a girl’s modesty, she should value a child’s modesty. People should be upset by a woman getting raped, they should be upset by a person getting raped. People shouldn’t get offended when a girl gets called a slut, they should get offended when a person gets called a slut. Or people of both sexes shouldn’t sleep around so god damn much if they don’t want to be called sluts! I have a dream (it’s a pretty hot dream).